Hello. I recently discovered that I’m probably autistic. This is a blog about my journey through the diagnosis process and finding out exactly what specific condition I have. It’s also about how I’ve gone through life without an adult autism diagnosis, learning what it means to be an autistic adult and finding out what it means for my future.
Without wishing to state the obvious, you either know me or you don’t. If you don’t know me, then hello. I really hope you find this blog worth your time. Autism is different for everyone who has it, so my account is entirely personal, but I’ll be striving to make it interesting, enlightening and fun. I’m by no means an autism expert (there are plenty of great blogs from people who are), I’m learning about it myself and I really hope that will make for a good read.
If you do know me then that opening paragraph may be a bit of a shock (or maybe it won’t!). Trust me, it was a bit of a shock for me when I found out, and I’ve understandably found it hard to explain it to people or to talk openly about adult autism. It’s not cancer or anything life threatening, but it’s a pretty big deal.
Why haven’t I told you before?
I’ve had numerous mental health issues over the last few years and rarely speak about them (although I will do so in this blog). There are a number of reasons for that. The most clichéd one is that I don’t want it to define me. I want to be known as your suave, handsome, witty and intellectual friend. Not your suave, handsome, witty and intellectual friend with mental health issues.
Secondly, it’s incredibly difficult for me to talk about. I know it’s hard to open a magazine or turn on the news these days, without finding out that some Z list celeb is talking openly about mental health issues, and good on them. It all helps to raise awareness and change perceptions. But the reality is that the majority of people with mental health problems find it extremely hard to talk about. And in many ways, talking to friends is harder than talking to strangers. Of course, it transpires that autism may have something to do with the reason for that, but I’ll get to that in some of my posts.
Finally, having friends and loved ones who I can enjoy a few drinks with, watch a sporting fixture with or just talk nonsense with, is just about the best therapy I can get. Even something as seemingly inane as spending an hour with my wife of an evening watching the latest Netflix series is a blessing and something I find invaluable in improving my stress levels.
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Autism is a really fascinating subject – regardless of whether you have it or not. I’m still getting to grips with many elements of it. I’m learning about terms like stimming, masking and neurodiversity, as well as various baffling acronyms. I’m discovering that I’ve been displaying signs of autism all my life. And I’m finding out that it’s a condition that impacts a lot more people than I imagined.
I hope you enjoy this blog. If you do, then please spread the word on social media and make sure you follow me and the blog via the links on the right.
Actually, even if you think this is a terrible blog, spread the word anyway. I’m not fussy!